Friday, 12 September 2014

The Dynamics Of Balance

It’s that time of the year, when it can still get fairly mild during the day, but the nights are absolutely freezing. In the morning, my car is full of condensation and there’s a cold mist over the fields. I took the picture above just outside the office last week, and it shows autumn is on its way! I know there are some countries where you still get 25 degrees in October – the Germans call it “Old Wives’ Summer” - but over here in Ireland, summer often ends with July. 

We still get mild days though. Yesterday morning the world had that dim, misty greyness we usually associate with November. By the time I left work, the sky was bright blue and the sun was shining on a mild 18 degrees. It’s this contrast between day and night that tells me, more than anything else, that autumn is on its way. The equinox is less than two weeks away, it happens on the 23rd this year in the early hours, so actually in the night between the 22nd and the 23rd. What are your plans, if any? I think I’ll focus a lot on balance in my celebration, it’s my life theme this lifetime. 

In fact, I’m managing more and more balance in my life. I have my job and my wonderful, sacred, inspiring Coaching, as well as free time and play. I still don’t have enough time with friends, but it’s a lot better than it was a year ago. And while I still sit on my bum waaaaay too much – at work and also at home, both during Coaching and during gaming – I have started moving again with the free Pilates course at work. It’s a beginning! 

There are different ways to look at balance in life. From a Pagan perspective, I tend to look to nature and its cyclic seasons and moon phases, and that’s a good example of how balance is always dynamic instead of static. Static would mean that nothing ever changes. Dynamic means: you might have a new baby and then you’ll get less sleep and have less time to look after yourself for a while, whilst relationships (with your baby) are high on your agenda. You may take a year off and go big on self care and body fitness for a while, whilst your professional development takes a back seat. But the pendulum always swings back into the opposite direction eventually, and so all in all, you still achieve balance – a dynamic balance. 

I tend to look at four categories and try to do something for myself in all four of them. 

  • Body - currently Pilates, mostly clean eating 
  • Mind – currently learning new things at work, creating, Coaching 
  • Soul – my budgies, connecting with friends and family, playing WoW 
  • Spirit - Pagan practice, walks in nature, meditation 

If I ever have to think about what to write down in one of those areas, it’s usually a sign that it’s out of balance! Then I look at it to determine whether it’s just one of the usual dynamic swings in the other direction, or whether it’s a permanent thing that needs to be fixed. All in all I’m absolutely ASTONISHED at the balance I’ve found. I used to lead a life that was much different. I had lots of people around me, went out all the time, travelled a lot, and never stayed in one place for too long. It was a great way to live for a while although it did leave traces and yes, scars, but it’s just not my way any longer. 

By the way, I don’t believe this has anything do to with age, just with the amount of time of having lived a certain way. After a while, the pendulum longs to swing back. There was a time when I was too closed off, almost a hermit, and now that’s changed too and I’m sort of in the balanced middle. It would almost be static, but there are still and always element which are moving. 

Life’s grand, isn’t it? How’s your balance? 

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Wednesday, 3 September 2014


Last Friday was the big day. 

I had planned it for weeks, and Friday evening after work, I took 100 EUR out of my abundant paycheck (I adjusted other budgets until I had a full 100 EUR available), and went to a shopping mall near my work. The mission was to replenish my stock of non-black sweaters for autumn and winter, and the criteria was only that I had to like them, they had to be at least partially made of natural fibre and not be in a colour I already owned. The latter was easy to accomplish, because after my clear-out frenzy last month I had exactly TWO pullovers left! 

I thought I’d probably get another two with my budget. I strolled through the mall, feeling abundant and glamorous (I was wearing the make-up to boot), and went into every single clothing boutique. To cut a long story short, I ended up with five – FIVE! – sweaters! The picture above shows the bounty spread out on my bed. I love all of them, and they are all at least part cotton. When I had four and had spent 75 EUR, I strolled into another store and saw the bright cobalt blue one on the right. I fell in love. It is over 50% cotton and feels amazing. It also fit perfectly. It was only then that I checked the price tag – 24.99!! I stayed exactly in budget. I love abundance magic. 

I drove home with my shopping bags, feeling ridiculously luxurious and abundant, exhausted but happy. I still haven’t managed to put those jumpers into my wardrobe, they are spread out over the airer where I can see them and grin at them every time I enter my bedroom. I’ll get over it, I promise, haha! 

The above might seem insignificant and mundane to some, but to me it’s such a huge step. I’m abundant, I spend money on myself, but within reason and most importantly, within budget. Ten years ago I didn’t even have a budget. If you don’t have one, I urge you to learn about these things. If you’d like support, consider booking a basic 3-month Coaching package. You'll spend the money initially, but I promise you’ll more than make up for the investment in the months to follow. This is so important, and it’s so liberating! I’ve gone through the money and abundance steps with several of my Coaching clients, and the results were always overwhelming. Seriously, consider it. 

To me, this means that I’m walking my talk. That I really have learned my lesson. That I’m nothing like the person I was ten years ago. I’m now free, abundant, happy, and in control. It feels AMAZING. 

It’s also very fitting that this happened during the Waxing Moon. This cycle I’m growing my abundance and my money muscles! I’m also growing content and happiness. I feel like I’m at the beginning of a phase in my life when things are coming together: I have a lovely job in an amazing, no-BS company, I can foresee having my deposit together next year and coming closer to my dream, I’m happy and settled where I live currently, my business gives me inspiration and happiness, and my finances are solid. 

Again, it’s nothing outrageous or sensational, but looking back, I realise I’ve come a long way from living and working in four different countries, always broke, with no concept or plan, floundering, and finally going into debt. Ten years hard work and education later, it’s actually happening! The work is beginning to pay off. 

It’s definitely no co-incidence that it’s the Harvest Moon this month. I’m loving my harvest so far, and I’m going to celebrate the Full Moon on the 9th in rather more splendor than usual. After that, I’ll be ready for the balance of the Equinox. 

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Thursday, 28 August 2014

Dinos, Balance, And Money Magic

The giant dino roars and stomps towards me. I turn and run away down the mighty hallway, my powerful lion’s legs making it impossible for him to catch up. He gives up and turns around. We all close in on him again and spells fly as everyone is doing their best to bring down the ancient beast. Two of the group get chomped when they accidentally step out in front of him. But we have enough people left and finally, he slowly keels over and cheers erupt over our voice chat system.

This was what happened on Monday night during my raid in World of Warcraft. It might all be just pixels, but trust me, the adrenaline is real! To do well in the game is an accomplishment just as being good at tennis, or at chess for that matter, is. It requires lightning fast reflexes and decisions within split-seconds. I love it.

And you know what, it’s just as well that I’m taking some time to have fun with my hobbies. I need it to balance the rather large amounts of energy spent on learning my new job, as well as doing my wonderful, joyful Coaching work – because much as I like both my “works”, they are work and not play. 

Now if you are wondering what the point and the “theme” of this blog post are, they’re Balance and Magic. And Dinos, of course. I’ll come to the magic part now.

You’re all signed up for Yiye’s Manifesting Money with Joy ecourse by now, aren’t you? I keep marvelling at how relevant and applicable it all is. I told you about my releasing my financial fear and opening up to spending money on myself recently; well, those initial purchases did leave a larger-than-usual balance on my credit card this month. So the other week, I decided I would manifest an additional 1,000 Euro by the 1st of November 2014. I have no idea how this is going to happen, but I am sure it is – I even wrote it down on a piece of paper which I’m now carrying in my pretty new wallet.

What can I say? I’ve already manifested the first 400 now, a WEEK later. I didn’t quite realise that because I started my new job at the end of July, I’d be paid for a few days extra this month, and so my paycheck is higher than it would be for just the one month. Consequently, I paid off the credit card in one go (as I usually do, but wasn’t sure I could this month) and I’ve still saved as much money as I always do – AND I’ll go for a small-ish shopping spree tomorrow evening to further replenish my rather empty wardrobe.

I do love my new job. And the area around here is so beautiful! Today I drove into work dreaming my big dream in great detail and getting so preoccupied, I actually missed the turn-off for HP. It was a beautiful, radiant sunny morning and I saw so much beauty on my little detour, lots of green, trees, and quaint little cottages. I could absolutely see myself living here!

I feel incredibly abundant and well-cared-for by this lovely life. They say abundance is a mindset, and I can tell you, it really is, and it CAN be acquired and trained. Talk to me if you are struggling, consider some Coaching – I couldn’t have gotten there without a Coach, and spending that money is so, so worth it, a thousand times over (not just idealistically, but in money, too). Life is beautiful because we make it so, not for any outward circumstances – which we can and do create, anyway. Everyone deserves to experience the bliss of it.

Friday, 22 August 2014

Happy Hag

                      Talion on the budgie playground

If this is getting boring, I sincerely apologise – not! I’m a happy hag in general, and particularly happy and content lately. From lovely get-togethers with even lovelier friends, to my lovely job and even lovelier work as a Coach for the Highly Sensitive, to still keeping my flat reasonably clean these days (which makes me happy because much as I dislike cleaning, I love living in a pretty, clean environment).

I’m enjoying my days and relishing the evenings working and dreaming. I once posted, in an old blog, a picture of the timber house I thought of building, maybe some of you will remember? Well, I’m now looking at alternatives and think I may have found something even more perfect – and affordable! In my mind, I actually LIVE in the place. I think about exactly where the sofa will be, and the cutest, and my gaming computer, and a desk for working from home, and what exactly it’s all going to look like. I think about colours – I want a colourful house, with lots of blues and greens and sunny orange and yellow. And red. Purple? We shall see.

Part of this is probably spurred on by the fact that after a bit of a holiday, my landlord and family are back and so are the days of noise well into the night. I’m soooo looking forward to just being able to sleep whenever I choose to, and not have to worry about my budgies getting enough quiet through the dark hours of the night. I tell them about our new place practically daily, especially when they’re scared by some unexpected noise late in the evening. 

At the same time, I keep my mind open – I might not end up in my own timber house after all, maybe I’ll fall in love with an existing (stone) house instead. I don’t put any limits on my dream. I have this deep conviction that when I have the money together, the perfect place will be there for me. And the mortgage will be approved. In perfect time, because that’s how the universe works.

Trust is the only thing capable of calming my impatience.

And sometimes I just need to remove myself from the world (I guess everyone needs that every now and then). This week, I’ve felt a growing impatience – I’ve been so good lately, working around the clock and even postponing reading “Fool’s Assassin” which was published on the 12th – and exhaustion, and so I made an effort to keep this coming weekend clear.

It’s almost the New Moon as well, a good time to get some rest. I’ll go into hibernation mode, lock myself away from the world and read, read, read, as well as talk to my budgies, take walks, drink tea, and play World of Warcraft. I might even look up the new non-player character the creators of WoW have put into the game in honour of Robin Williams, who was a long-term gamer and played WoW among others. May his beautiful soul find peace at last.

Have a great week! I’ll talk to you after I’ve returned to humanity.

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Wednesday, 13 August 2014

The Break-Up

There comes a time when you have to face the truth and break up. Let go. Go your own way. 

I just broke up with the last 10 years of my life. 

How does that work? 

Well, I made the decision that I’m no longer broke (which I’m demonstrably not) and that I’ll stop acting like I am. It’s not so easy, you know. It becomes a habit. Add to that the fact that I still have next to no disposable income, and the habit becomes even harder to break - although these days I’m skint because I save rigorously for the deposit on my own hag cottage. It’s by choice, and that makes all the difference in the world. 

When I went bankrupt, I had no choice – I remember going to the supermarket and having to buy food for a week with less than 5 Euro (it’s possible. Thank the gods I REALLY like potatoes). My bankruptcy taught me all the things I DON’T need, all the things that are expendable and only seem “necessary” because we are so danged spoilt in our Western world of plenty. It also finally, finally make me learn about finances and MANAGE my money. I’ll be forever grateful for the lessons. 

But there’s a difference between living simply and denying oneself absolutely everything that’s not strictly necessary for survival. And that’s where the above-mentioned decision came in. You know I don’t believe in co-incidences, and so I think it was wonderful timing that at that moment, the wonderful Yiye offered a free ecourse on “Manifesting Money with Joy" (you HAVE to do that course! Seriously, sign up for it NOW) which gave me some amazing extra impulses.

One of them was to buy a new wallet. Yes, really! Mine was over 20 years old and ragged around the edges but heck, it was functional, and I had so many better things to spend money on for so long… -At Yiye’s suggestion in the course, I went on a quest one day and brought home in triumph the wallet you see in the picture above. I’m in LOVE with it! My money has a much more cheerful home now. 

Next came my wardrobe. I’ve never kept more clothes than I need, but I was still wearing some very old clothes (by necessity – because for so long, I had no money to buy any). This time, I did a radical blitz and donated or threw out anything older than a few years and anything I wasn’t wearing anymore. 

It was scary. There’s almost nothing left. I hyperventilated, then I willed myself to be calm and decided to buy a few basic pieces, and take it from there. It took a lot of deep breaths and reminders: “It’s ok, Sibylle. You can afford it”, but I went through with it and I’m very proud of myself. 

One of the things I never bought for the last 10 years is anything “girly” you’d find in the section titled “beauty”. So, I took another couple of deep breaths and threw out the last few dried-up lip glosses and eyeliners I had kept, and then went out and bought a few pretty hair clasps, nail polish, and two different eyeshadows. Ohmygods, the expense!! I keep forgetting to put on makeup, but with the new job it was a good opportunity to change my morning routine and plan in 5 minutes for beauty purposes. I’m getting better at it, and I feel all grown-up and well-turned-out, I’m telling you! 

Actually, I haven’t told you the half of it. Last weekend, I went for a MANICURE. It was the first I’d had in my entire life! I don’t have long nails, but even with short nails a hand looks nicer when the cuticles are all soft and nice and not shredded and hard as sandpaper. 

Do I have a little less money left to save this month? Certainly. But it’s not going to break the bank, or my dream either. I’m going to keep practising, in smaller installments, to spend money on myself. I can’t even begin to tell you what a huge shift this has caused in my life already. 

Abundance, here I come! It's definitely no accident that I just launched my new Coaching program for the Highly Sensitive the other day, which is flexible, affordable, intensive, and transformational - just like me! Check it out, I'd love to hear what you think. 

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